Since unforgivingathena attended her friend’s surprise proposal, Nyx thought that it’d be a good idea for us to share our ideal proposals. I think as I grow older, my ideal proposal will change but for the time being, this is it. (We’re totally getting ahead of ourselves when none of us even have boyfriends. It’s good to plan ahead right? Yeah, I’m just trying to convince myself that . . . yeah, no.)
It’s rare that I dream at night–and even rarer that I remember my dreams after I wake up. But this morning I had this vivid dream about @unforgivingathena and Panda (a guy associated with Athena) in the world of Lois Lowry’s The Giver (a book I’ve been working on with these kids I tutor recently), and thought I would share my dream… with anyone who cares to read about it. *warning* this contains spoilers about the novel, so if you don’t want to know…
This is just a fun series of posts where the four of us will list our ideal type of guy. We thought it would be interesting to see if we actually find someone that has these characteristics or if we’ll be attracted to different types of people. Please don’t take this post too seriously because we’re doing this more as an experiment. (When I have a boyfriend in the future, I might do a post that lists what he is like briefly to compare with the alleged ideal guy and the real guy.)
Here goes my post.
If I could build my ideal type of guy, I think these would be the requirements…
To my dearest of dears (from before I even met you),
So, as many of my posts tend to go, I was having a conversation about being single yet stuck in couple-like relationships with @unforgivingathena, who was expressing dissatisfaction at how she seemed to be having all the couple dialogues with Panda–despite the fact that he actually has a girlfriend of his own. Talking every single day, knowing his day-to-day routine, listening to grumbles about everyday life, meeting up alone together often… You could argue about some ambiguity between friendships and relationships for some of those things. So how about: spending hours each day helping each other with work, being the first one he calls when he received important results, paying his cell phone bill for him when he forgot, being the last person I say “good night” to and (sometimes) the first to say “good morning” the next day, having him push my lazy self into getting work done, consulting him with my complaints and uncertainties about life… I think I can speak as someone who’s treated like a girlfriend without actually being one. Continue reading “It’s all a matter of perspective”
I recently met a new guy and he was cute! Yay! I don’t have a full-on crush on him but I do get the feeling that I would like to know him better. I feel kind of shallow because I realize that a lot of my crushes start with me noticing some guy’s looks and then wanting to know the person better after. (I’m trying to change that and be more open minded, but it’s hard.) That’s not the worse though that happens, I think. Sometimes I start analyzing little body language cues that the guy gives or try to remember all the words he said to see if there were any hints of a crush on me. I admit that I do get obsessed with the puzzle of finding out whether he likes me back. My worst habit is . . .
That was my most random title yet. This post will probably also be quite random. The only reason this post is actually becoming a thing is because I didn’t want to post it on our group chat on the off-chance that it might rub anyone the wrong way (because the me that overthinks can see the possibility). Call it wishful thinking, paranoia, overthinking, overanalyzing, whatever you will… as soon and as highly improbable as it may seem, there may be something in my non-existent love life to squint at for a bit.
After my unsuccessful pseudo-confession/rejection with Country Boy, I swore that I would give up all notion/hope of love before getting settled into grad school. I really don’t have the time/mental ability/desire to start a relationship with anyone else right now when my whole future is so up in the air. So someone please explain to me just what is happening now.